Notes to a Born Self

I don’t know the exact time of my birth.  5 or 6 am.  My mom remembers dawn breaking outside the window.  When I press her for more, she gently reminds me that she was occupied at the time.

Fair enough, mom.

There I was, pulled out, all tiny and screaming.  If you were to translate what I was shouting to the world, it’d probably be a rendition of WHAT THE FUCK?

I think of the little beings we arrive as, thrust into the arms of unprepared parents.  Instructions manual, none.  Amazing that they manage to raise us to go on to build rocketships and write mysteries and compose symphonies.  You’d think that given the general silliness of our species, we’d have gone extinct a long time ago.

So, several dawns later, here I am.  Sometimes still looking around, mumbling, “wtf?”  And sometimes, struck with gratitude for the sheer beauty of it all.

Since time – heck, reality itself – is an illusion, I’m going to give my newborn self the manual I wish he’d be given.  Close my eyes, reach out to him, and hand him this.  No fluff.  No theories.  Only hard earned truths.  The rest, he can color between the lines.   Here goes…

– You are worthy.  The sooner you accept that, the sooner life will zing.

– Break rules.  The rewards greatly outnumber the punishments.

– Everything is an experience.  In the now, that’s it.

– Good and bad are labels.  Be with the experience, not the label.

– You are special.  Treat yourself well.

– I repeat: you are fucking special.  Don’t accept less from anyone.

– Love requires risk.  It’s worth it.

– The more you close your heart, the more it gets broken.  Funny how that works.

– Your mind is not far removed from a monkey.  Don’t trust it. 

– Your inner self, the quiet and deep part within, trust that.

– Every day, spend time in gratitude.

– Every day, create something.

– Love yourself.  It works wonders.

I am a later version of you.  Before I know it, there will be a later version of me.  And before he knows it, no more.  Poof, a wisp of stardust, gone.  Leave behind a life that mattered.  I love you.

17 thoughts on “Notes to a Born Self

  1. Dear Kamal,

    I hope you are well and very happy. Your post’s always reach me when I’m struggling to find truth to a pressing moment in my life. You are my angel messenger! I can’t thank you enough for sending this out this evening, because it literally reached me moments after I posed a pressing conflict I’m facing to my daughter. Then there you have it, the universe sends me the answer from a voice I respect and trust. Telling me not to doubt myself and take the risk presented before me with gusto. Thank you! You ARE amazing! Truly!

    Many, many blessings and love…… Sherry


  2. Earth Angel Kamal,
    I’m inspired and very grateful for your presence in this ‘WTF’ world! When I saw this email, I knew it would hold treasures for my heart. Keep writing.
    Much Love,

  3. This is beautiful. A keeper–I’m putting it up by my desk in two versions…I hope you’ll forgive that I edit the “fuck” out of the one I place on the wall at school. Or maybe they’ll like it better if I simply pretend to sharpie it out. That would be the least appropriate thing to do;) Happy birthday.

  4. जन्मदिन मुबारक हो (janmdin mubaarak ho)

    Lovely post. ‘Break rules’ resonates w/ me at this time time in my life.
    You should write a children’s book.

  5. I’m going to insist my teenage girls make this their mantra. Wish I had come across this wisdom in my youth..

  6. “So, several dawns later, here I am. Sometimes still looking around, mumbling, “wtf?” And sometimes, struck with gratitude for the sheer beauty of it all.”

    So true, this really it!

  7. This one made me cry.
    I heard of your book on one of Hal Elrod’s podcasts, and I bought a copy to read and share with the people in my life. It would be awesome if he interviewed you! Thank you for sharing your insights. : )

  8. Kamal,

    Thank you for these beautiful shiny pearls of wisdom! Not only I want to share this with my younger self, I want to pass it on to my kids… it’s so simple, yet profound and deep!

    Thank you thank you thank you!

    ~ Sharizat

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